I'm desperately waiting

[Superstar7]

I am going to get straight to it!!!! It is going on I believe 8 years from when I first told my now wife that I would like to see her with other men. We have had the conversation a couple times a year since then and the answer is always no. There has been times she has told me she has considered it but chose against it. She has given me every reason under the sun why she does not want to do it. I have tried many things to convince her to do it. I don't even like using the word convince. I just know I would never leave her if we were to do it. It is hard for me to get her to understand my love for her is real and no matter how much I try to get rid of the desire to see her with other men I still want to. She feels like she is not the woman for me because she is not into it. I have went as far as asking my brother would he have sex with my wife. When she found out she was mad. She likes to say the moment she has sex with another guy we are over with. I do not understand her reason behind that. Why would you leave me because you slept with another guy. The young version of myself could see why she would say that but now that we have been together for 14 years I cannot understand that. All I know is that I have been waiting years and someday I would love to see it. I recently told her she can be friends with an ex on Facebook. Maybe someday that can be bare some fruit since they have had sex before.

 

[indiabull]

I am going to get straight to it!!!! It is going on I believe 8 years from when I first told my now wife that I would like to see her with other men. We have had the conversation a couple times a year since then and the answer is always no. There has been times she has told me she has considered it but chose against it. She has given me every reason under the sun why she does not want to do it. I have tried many things to convince her to do it. I don't even like using the word convince. I just know I would never leave her if we were to do it. It is hard for me to get her to understand my love for her is real and no matter how much I try to get rid of the desire to see her with other men I still want to. She feels like she is not the woman for me because she is not into it. I have went as far as asking my brother would he have sex with my wife. When she found out she was mad. She likes to say the moment she has sex with another guy we are over with. I do not understand her reason behind that. Why would you leave me because you slept with another guy. The young version of myself could see why she would say that but now that we have been together for 14 years I cannot understand that. All I know is that I have been waiting years and someday I would love to see it. I recently told her she can be friends with an ex on Facebook. Maybe someday that can be bare some fruit since they have had sex before.

You will come at India where we can create second honeymoon for her and body massage for her..and say her about spending some holiday at in India where you spend some time at travel at many interesting place and take my Service For her.

 

[Nevertooold]

If it happens it happens. Otherwise you can at least appreciate that she won’t cheat on you behind your back. I get wanting the fantasy but you might have to keep it a fantasy.

 

[Superstar7]

If it happens it happens. Otherwise you can at least appreciate that she won’t cheat on you behind your back. I get wanting the fantasy but you might have to keep it a fantasy.

Thanks for the reassurance

 

[Caldosch]

She knows how you feel. No point pushing it any further. My advice would be to ask if she will meet you half way and include some role-play. Use toys to help enhance the fantasy of another guy being there.

 

[BEM35]

I am going to get straight to it!!!! It is going on I believe 8 years from when I first told my now wife that I would like to see her with other men. We have had the conversation a couple times a year since then and the answer is always no. There has been times she has told me she has considered it but chose against it. She has given me every reason under the sun why she does not want to do it. I have tried many things to convince her to do it. I don't even like using the word convince. I just know I would never leave her if we were to do it. It is hard for me to get her to understand my love for her is real and no matter how much I try to get rid of the desire to see her with other men I still want to. She feels like she is not the woman for me because she is not into it. I have went as far as asking my brother would he have sex with my wife. When she found out she was mad. She likes to say the moment she has sex with another guy we are over with. I do not understand her reason behind that. Why would you leave me because you slept with another guy. The young version of myself could see why she would say that but now that we have been together for 14 years I cannot understand that. All I know is that I have been waiting years and someday I would love to see it. I recently told her she can be friends with an ex on Facebook. Maybe someday that can be bare some fruit since they have had sex before.

Share some pics of her. At a minimum you can hear how we would like to use her.

 

[Lovefeet]

Share some pics of her. At a minimum you can hear how we would like to use her.

And then there's that....go find a Pic of someone's wife to beat off to..

 

[Superstar7]

She knows how you feel. No point pushing it any further. My advice would be to ask if she will meet you half way and include some role-play. Use toys to help enhance the fantasy of another guy being there.

The role play stuff has been a slow process but I will continue to work with that.

 

[Superstar7]

She knows how you feel. No point pushing it any further. My advice would be to ask if she will meet you half way and include some role-play. Use toys to help enhance the fantasy of another guy being there.

The role play stuff has been a slow process but I will continue to work with that

And then there's that....go find a Pic of someone's wife to beat off to..

I would never do that without her consent!

And then there's that....go find a Pic of someone's wife to beat off to..

I may be an anxious rookie but I am aware that the lifestyle is a consensual and respectful place.

 

[slowwewaxation]

Many of us find ourselves in similar situations. Despite her occasionally expressing interest in being more open with strangers when she’s very drunk, we’re not making any real progress. I often go through phases where I get frustrated, consider deleting all my NSFW accounts, and think about just giving up on the idea. Even so, I keep trying, though I don’t fully understand why. People sometimes ask me for photos of her, but I would never share them without her explicit consent. I’m not looking for anything disrespectful—I just wish she could feel comfortable enough to explore something I believe she’d truly enjoy if she let go of her inhibitions.

 

[Superstar7]

Many of us find ourselves in similar situations. Despite her occasionally expressing interest in being more open with strangers when she’s very drunk, we’re not making any real progress. I often go through phases where I get frustrated, consider deleting all my NSFW accounts, and think about just giving up on the idea. Even so, I keep trying, though I don’t fully understand why. People sometimes ask me for photos of her, but I would never share them without her explicit consent. I’m not looking for anything disrespectful—I just wish she could feel comfortable enough to explore something I believe she’d truly enjoy if she let go of her inhibitions.

I appreciate your response to the moon and back! Getting her to understand how and why I derive pleasure from seeing her being pleased by someone who is not me is very hard. I believe if she gives it more thought someday it could workout. I have chosing to fall back on the idea and see if she will come around on her own. I know I don't want anyone else but I know I make it hard for her when I let her know I want to see her that way.