I no longer send or share pics until I verify a couple is real

[AstonTN]

Do you find there are many armchair thrillseekers posing as a couple? What are the red flags in your experience? Mine are;

1. Conversation starts normally and by the 4th chat they are flooding you with pictures
2. Every discussion hints at sending pics or fantasies
3. Wanting to know "what you'll do to her" when you meet

I'd like to see what your red flags are.

 

[kumabear75]

Hmm... in terms of pics, I look for quality and what I call the social media rip-off. In the first case, I can tell professionally shot pictures (ie porn), as opposed to handheld snaps with a smartphone. In the second, it's also obvious when someone's just bombarding you with pics from his crush's IG account. Whether she actually knows him is a different matter entirely.

In messages, I look for level of engagement. Is the person responding to the conversation, or just sending through messages regardless? Also, if a guy starts off by talking about his wife/gf in the present tense, then switches to past tense: that means she's his ex.

I get peeved at the number of "female" members who are actually guys. Understand that female profiles will get much more interest but for me it's an honesty thing and it makes me feel weird.

 

[AstonTN]

Hmm... in terms of pics, I look for quality and what I call the social media rip-off. In the first case, I can tell professionally shot pictures (ie porn), as opposed to handheld snaps with a smartphone. In the second, it's also obvious when someone's just bombarding you with pics from his crush's IG account. Whether she actually knows him is a different matter entirely.

In messages, I look for level of engagement. Is the person responding to the conversation, or just sending through messages regardless? Also, if a guy starts off by talking about his wife/gf in the present tense, then switches to past tense: that means she's his ex.

I get peeved at the number of "female" members who are actually guys. Understand that female profiles will get much more interest but for me it's an honesty thing and it makes me feel weird.

Well said, the red flags are always there and obvious. I pick up on it right away and I indulge them for a while without giving them anything until either I get bored and move on, or they get bored from getting nothing from me.