How to deal with and overcome jealousy, insecurity?

[imherman]

Hey everyone - brand new to this and trying to wrap my head around it all

My wife told me she wants to be with another man and I wasn’t ready.

I’ve always had a cuck kink from being cheated in previous relationships but it was never anything I actually wanted to do.

I have the kink, my wife expressed a desire to try black men (she’s puerto Rican and has only been with white guys) and now I need to decide if it’s something I support her with and empower her to experience or tell her I can’t deal with it.

I feel guilty as hell telling her she can’t have something she wants. I know it took a lot of courage for her to ask me, and I could tell from her tone that this is really important to her.

If I saw no I have to deal with the guilt as well as the knowledge that she still wants this just as bad.

If I support her I hope that I might enjoy parts of it as a cuck, and that she will appreciate my support and get this out of her system.

Ideally, she’d have a handful of experiences and go back to regular monogamy.

I know I’m a jealous guy - how can I manage this and any insecurities that will surely come up?

I’m trying to navigate if I can do this, and I think I can if I can get over my jealously.

I know it will hurt to have other men experience her and know what she’s like intimately.

Right now any time I ...... with her i can’t not think ‘oh this is what she wants to give away to another man’ or ‘oh this is what some dude is going to enjoy’ right as I climax (I don’t want to think about that when I’m cumming but it always happens).

I’d be really grateful for any insights or advice on how to deal with the jealousy so that I can give my wife what she really wants

 

[Sandycheeks4242]

Exposure therapy.

Watch her shake hands, then hug, then kiss then get her tits fondled, her clit licked, sucking dick and then getting creampie. One step at a time

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

Taking steps is good advice. I have been living this life for over 5 years and I still get jealous. Watching my wife play with his cock and enjoying it. My cock is straining and crying in its cage the whole time, but I love that she is enjoying herself and I like watching. So even though I am jealous, my other emotions over ride it.

 

[Hotwifelove]

I don't know i do not get jealous
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[Jeanswatcher]

I have never been jealous of my girlfriend or after she became my wife and cuckoldress. I accepted it was small part of her personality and she wanted and needed to explore and expand her own mind, body and sexuality, with different and more experienced lovers.

Using years of experience, her desires and how she approaches them i would if i may suggest that your wife in expressing a desire to try black men".....isnt actually asking you she is sounding you out on your view. Females have the means to sexually get what they want, i would read what your wrote as her conversion really means, this is what i want and if you agree thats excellent, if not when the opportunity arises i probably will anyway.

The differences are, one you may get to know about her encounter or two, she will do it and hide it from you and females are excellent at this. So which do you prefer?

As to your jealousy and insecurity, i think its fair to suggest that your hope that if she does this and enjoys it she will then return "to regular monogamy" may not happen.

However being the husband of a cuckoldress isnt all bad, far from it. My cuckoldresses sexuality is 5% of who she is and whilst that 5% maybe enjoying the her pleasures of another male, exciting for us both, we have bar the odd argument a very happy friendship and open and honest marriage 100% of the time. I love being her cuck husband and sharing my life with her.

 

[undead]

Привет всем - я новичок в этом и пытаюсь во всем этом разобраться.

Моя жена сказала мне, что хочет быть с другим мужчиной, а я не был готов.

У меня всегда была странность из-за измен в предыдущих отзывах, но это никогда не было чем-то, чего бы мне хотелось на самом деле.

У меня есть странность, моя жена вызвала желание попробовать себя с чернокожими мужчинами (она пуэрториканка и была только с белыми парнями), и теперь мне нужно решить, стоит ли мне поддержать ее в этом и дать ей дополнительную возможность или сказать ей, что я не могу с этим смириться.

Я чувствую себя чертовски виноватым, говоря ей, что она не может добиться того, что хочет. Я знаю, что ей потребовалось много смелости, чтобы спросить меня, и я мог понять по ее тону, что это действительно важно для нее.

Если я увижу «нет», мне придется иметь дело с чувством вины, а также с осознанием того, что она все еще хочет этого так же сильно.

Если я поддержу ее, я надеюсь, что она получит пользу от этого, как рогоносец, и что она оценит мою поддержку, и вы выкинете это из головы.

В идеале она хотела бы получить текущий опыт и вернуться к обычной моногамии.

Я знаю, что я ревнивый человек. Как мне справиться с этой и любой неуверенностью, которая наверняка возникнет?

Я пытаюсь понять, можно ли это сделать, и думаю, что можно, если справиться со своей ревностью.

Я знаю, что будет больно, если другие мужчины познакомятся с ней и узнают, какова она в интимной истории.

Прямо сейчас, в любой момент, когда я... с ней, я не могу не думать: «О, вот что она хочет отдать раунд мужчине» или «О, вот что понравится кому-то парню», прямо в тот момент, когда я кончаю (я не хочу думать об этом, когда кончаю, но это всегда происходит).

Я был бы очень благодарен за любые идеи или советы о том, как остаться с ревностью, чтобы я мог дать своей жене то, чего она действительно хочет.

Не простой вопрос на самом деле!

тут нужно понять, как вы вообще живете?

Кто у вас шея, а кто голова?)) )

вообще это редкое явление, которое бы жена так просила выразить желание своему мужу или другу партнере !!!

Она вам доверяет, и это уже очень хорошо.

, если у вас есть возбуждение от такой сцены, то вам нужно усилить тему и принять ответственность за все, что произойдет дальше (возможно, это скрытое желание вашей жены
) .

развитие пред угадаешь не просто и без надёжно!)))

 

[Steven35]

I still get a little jealous. These guys are everything I'm not, and my wife is eating it up. They have hard bodies, big cocks, and they can last forever. My wife worships them. But jealousy is an exciting part of the experience. It mixes with my being totally aroused, and seeing my wife totally sexually satisfied. For me, it wouldn't be as wonderful an experience without some jealousy.

 

[coastalkid]

Hey everyone - brand new to this and trying to wrap my head around it all

My wife told me she wants to be with another man and I wasn’t ready.

I’ve always had a cuck kink from being cheated in previous relationships but it was never anything I actually wanted to do.

I have the kink, my wife expressed a desire to try black men (she’s puerto Rican and has only been with white guys) and now I need to decide if it’s something I support her with and empower her to experience or tell her I can’t deal with it.

I feel guilty as hell telling her she can’t have something she wants. I know it took a lot of courage for her to ask me, and I could tell from her tone that this is really important to her.

If I saw no I have to deal with the guilt as well as the knowledge that she still wants this just as bad.

If I support her I hope that I might enjoy parts of it as a cuck, and that she will appreciate my support and get this out of her system.

Ideally, she’d have a handful of experiences and go back to regular monogamy.

I know I’m a jealous guy - how can I manage this and any insecurities that will surely come up?

I’m trying to navigate if I can do this, and I think I can if I can get over my jealously.

I know it will hurt to have other men experience her and know what she’s like intimately.

Right now any time I ...... with her i can’t not think ‘oh this is what she wants to give away to another man’ or ‘oh this is what some dude is going to enjoy’ right as I climax (I don’t want to think about that when I’m cumming but it always happens).

I’d be really grateful for any insights or advice on how to deal with the jealousy so that I can give my wife what she really wants

I would think that you really need another serious "sit down" with your wife. Since your wife was the one to approach you you should be able to do that easily.

My wife isn't a hot wife but she knows I have the kink like you do. When I think about the potential of it becoming a reality I'm filled with reluctance because I don't have any assurance that we are on the same page about it. I know I wouldn't think we were "enhancing" our sex life if I felt the way she acted and treated me made me feel jealous, insecure, or inadequate. It would suck to have longed for an experience for so long and have it turn out to be the last fucking thing you'd wish on your worst enemy.

Some guys are obviously ok with that, that's fine for them, I get it. Some guys will say that you aren't cut out for this lifestyle because they think they know how it should be done and their vision is the only true way. The truth is that they found their way to the lifestyle on their very own personal path. Your wife may be very similar to all the other hot wives but she is still an individual. The same goes for you! That's why you need to put all your cards on the table, both of you and find your own unique shared path.

There's a ...... ton of talk about a hot wife's first experience and how a husband needs to give her space and freedom and accept her NRE. There's not a lot of talk about a hot wife husband's "first experience" and how he learns to enjoy the lifestyle, even less about how his wife supports him. In this world it seems like wives suddenly have no responsibility to anything other than their own sexual satisfaction. They are given great power and freedom from the consequence of their behavior. I'm convinced that not every wife has the wisdom to make it work and not cause damage whether intentionally or unintentionally.

 

[emca753]

I always loved and FEARED Sonja's excursions with her boytoy, and her eyes looking at him....I also got loving kisses on the forehead cheek and ear and a loving recognition that she wanted him sexually, but wanted me emotionally ad financially

 

[Elja1]

The Ex was a nympho and I knew I couldn't keep up with her when she got in the mood. The first time I saw her take another cock I was jealous until I saw he was giving her what she needed and the lust in her eyes was remarkable. After that we played, and I enjoyed watching as she was satisfied by others as well as myself

 

[torontobulll]

hey young thick bull in toronto pm me for some fun

I always loved and FEARED Sonja's excursions with her boytoy, and her eyes looking at him....I also got loving kisses on the forehead cheek and ear and a loving recognition that she wanted him sexually, but wanted me emotionally ad financiall

 

[cuck52]

My wife wants me to be jealous and insecure but also very turned on.. She goes out of her way to make me jealous.. I take it from her, I have no choice.