thanks for all the advice 
I should mention that our ground rules were agreed that she was free to pursue who she wanted we would all meet up for a chat drinks etc and go from there .. if we both gave the green light on the person she was free to talk catch up with him whenever as long as she was open with me and on many occasions she would go and hang out with a guy then tell me afterwards what happened take vids and pics for me .. it was hot af and I didn’t have an issue with it at all, we did the initial meets together so that neither of us would be uncomfortable, It wasn’t so much I was choosing her partners for her .. she always had final say .. but if I didn’t like the vibe or energy of someone And thought they were untrustworthy I would shut it down, the crossing the line part wasn’t that she did something without asking me first .. it was that we had previously met with this person and I could tell straight off the bat that he would become a problem if she pursued him so I said no to it .. she then went behind my back and did it anyway .. surprise surprise he became a problem when she wouldn’t do it again and he threatened to try and expose our lifestyle to the public lol .. i know there’s different levels to this lifestyle (well I do now) I didn’t even really know it had a name or what it was .. it was just something we did that turned us both on lol .. for us what worked was open communication and both of us agreeing on partners for her that’s the way we both wanted it .. unfortunately this little snag kinda brought it to a halt and it was my fault .. i was still kinda new to the lifestyle and I took it pretty hard ..
so you think I should address the situation with her and apologise for it ?
