My girlfriend (33y) and I are in a relationship for over 10 years now. I have a strong fantasy of sharing her with other guys and I think I am getting close, but not sure how to proceed from now to really get things going.
My girlfriend is extremely hot: blonde, tall, slim and athletique figure, pretty face and the nicest ass. Imaging her getting her sexual pleasure from others is extremely arousing to me, but the thougt that other guys get turned on by her ‘hotness’ is also extremely arousing.
I have this fantasy for a few years now and I started talking to her about exploring this fantasy a few years ago. At first she found it weird and said never gonna happen. But now a few years later she is getting used to the idea. My girlfriend is very vanilla when it comes to sex and she find it hard talking about it. But she is beginning to opening up and that takes the awkwardness away for her.
Now we are at a point she is talking more serious about it and actually thinks about it. I know she is texting with someone (she doesn’t know that I know) and I think this can be the first opportunity. The thing holding her back is telling me every detail because she feels very awkward about it. A while ago there was also a nother guy who she was texting with (her personal trainer) which led to sex texting, we had great sex during that time but I was getting way too excited and eventually she felt that as pressure. So she admitted she want to explore this fantasy but on her terms and she doesn’t want to involve me to much in finding the first guy, because she is awkward telling about it and is afraid that I am getting to excited which will feel as pressure to her.
She said she is going to find a guy and will tell me when the first date is set. She is extremely picky so it will be a long process I think. And the thing I worry about is that we have phases where she is really into it (like now), but there are also phases that she is more closed off and doesn’t like to talk about it. And is she is in a phase like that I always have the feeling it’s really hard to open her up again. Like we have to start all over again. In other words I want to ‘prime’ her in a very subtle way. Maybe even in a indirect way. What would you guys do? For example a few days ago we went to the movie babygirl and that opened the conversation again. She now wants to see more movies with me where the wife is cheating. So maybe you guys have advice for movies/series? Or maybe some podcast stories?
I really think it’s going to happen soon, but I need to work very thougtfull. One of the main things holding her back was the thought that she would see me as a pussy if she is getting fucked by other dudes. She brought that up again a few days ago and when I was understanding about that and said maybe this is not something for us because I don’t want to her think about me like that and al of a sudden she changed her opinion and said maybe I judged to quickly about that. So in otherwords she wants this and she doesn’t even mind anymore (about the things holding her back) if she would see me as a pussy. I know she is texting a guy in secret and I think she asked my final approval to make sure I really want this and she made clear she want to do it on her terms: telling me a few days before her first date. Man this is so exciting. But I don’t want to loose this momentum. What would you guys do?
My girlfriend is extremely hot: blonde, tall, slim and athletique figure, pretty face and the nicest ass. Imaging her getting her sexual pleasure from others is extremely arousing to me, but the thougt that other guys get turned on by her ‘hotness’ is also extremely arousing.
I have this fantasy for a few years now and I started talking to her about exploring this fantasy a few years ago. At first she found it weird and said never gonna happen. But now a few years later she is getting used to the idea. My girlfriend is very vanilla when it comes to sex and she find it hard talking about it. But she is beginning to opening up and that takes the awkwardness away for her.
Now we are at a point she is talking more serious about it and actually thinks about it. I know she is texting with someone (she doesn’t know that I know) and I think this can be the first opportunity. The thing holding her back is telling me every detail because she feels very awkward about it. A while ago there was also a nother guy who she was texting with (her personal trainer) which led to sex texting, we had great sex during that time but I was getting way too excited and eventually she felt that as pressure. So she admitted she want to explore this fantasy but on her terms and she doesn’t want to involve me to much in finding the first guy, because she is awkward telling about it and is afraid that I am getting to excited which will feel as pressure to her.
She said she is going to find a guy and will tell me when the first date is set. She is extremely picky so it will be a long process I think. And the thing I worry about is that we have phases where she is really into it (like now), but there are also phases that she is more closed off and doesn’t like to talk about it. And is she is in a phase like that I always have the feeling it’s really hard to open her up again. Like we have to start all over again. In other words I want to ‘prime’ her in a very subtle way. Maybe even in a indirect way. What would you guys do? For example a few days ago we went to the movie babygirl and that opened the conversation again. She now wants to see more movies with me where the wife is cheating. So maybe you guys have advice for movies/series? Or maybe some podcast stories?
I really think it’s going to happen soon, but I need to work very thougtfull. One of the main things holding her back was the thought that she would see me as a pussy if she is getting fucked by other dudes. She brought that up again a few days ago and when I was understanding about that and said maybe this is not something for us because I don’t want to her think about me like that and al of a sudden she changed her opinion and said maybe I judged to quickly about that. So in otherwords she wants this and she doesn’t even mind anymore (about the things holding her back) if she would see me as a pussy. I know she is texting a guy in secret and I think she asked my final approval to make sure I really want this and she made clear she want to do it on her terms: telling me a few days before her first date. Man this is so exciting. But I don’t want to loose this momentum. What would you guys do?
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