Found porn on wife’s phone?

[fmrdancer]

Hey all - fantasy and a dose of reality led me here. I’ve always fantasized about sharing my wife but left it at that…

I was looking for something in my wife’s phone (we are very open on this regard) and saw Pornhub in her history - all about throat fucking, hard sex, cuckqueens, and the sort of thing we never have talked about. Part of me was turned on but another part freaked out as it makes me think she’s not satisfied

She was hyper sexual before we married … had sex with BBC, multiple threesomes…once she even hinted at a threesome for us

Now so many years in we’re so focused on work and business we don’t even talk about sex…I feel like there’s room to make our fantasy real but also don’t want to violate our marriage if this is her secret…

Any help?

 

[bobtk]

You should talk to her about it. Say you found the page open on her phone and thought the porn was hot and it made you really horny.

 

[BeanNaughty]

Might be the stuff she watches with her lover :/

 

[coastalkid]

I suppose the finding of the porn could mean a lot of different things. I would also suggest that it doesn't necessarily mean that she's unsatisfied. I wouldn't assume anything until you get a chance to ask her about it.

What is more concerning to me is that she was "hyper sexual" before being married. Is she no longer "hyper sexual" by your observation? You said that at one time she even hinted at having a threesome. Has that kind of talk disappeared now that you no longer talk about sex? To me, this is more worrisome. If she outwardly doesn't show any interest in talking to you about sex but has been surfing porn then she's keeping those feelings to herself. If she's keeping that to herself then there may be other things she's keeping to herself.

Somehow, some way you need to ask her about the porn. Do you watch porn? Do you know if she knows you do? If she does know then maybe you can send her a link to the kind of porn you saw that she had on her phone. That could lead to a discussion about what you saw. She needs to know about your fear that you don't satisfy her. If you are left to your imagination you could easily misinterpret ANY behavior on her part and react negatively to something that wasn't about you.

Just my observation and nothing more than that.