I totally understand where you are coming from. But you should’ve been more assertive at the time. If it was ok with your twisted “friend” and your wife, that’s one thing, but if it was not ok with you, you should’ve stopped it immediately, period.
Also, it is obvious that everyone in this scenario fucked up. Your “friend”, your wife, and you. Everyone totally failed at communication. Your “buddy” made assumptions and went way way way too far. He made your wife ......, twice! For that alone, he deserves a beating. Your wife probably had feelings for him before this event ever started (remember, she picked him…why not a stranger instead) and then went behind your back with texting this piece of ....... And you were simply not assertive.
My opinion is ditch the “friend”. Make a new friend. This guy should feel lucky to be above ground.
You may be able to patch things up with your wife…if you both actually love each other and are willing to make the compromises and express the forgiveness that true love always requires.
