Hey, new to this life style.. very new… my husband has been pressing me to do this lifestyle for a few years now… but do to some issues I have not entertained the idea… but I finally did… and now it seems to have not been the best… I had my first hot wife experience with my ex boyfriend from HS… super hot videoed it, snapped pictures.. sent them to my husband who works away from home… then a few days later a very sexy man… started chatting with me… we met… fucked… literally lasted 10 min… wasn’t much of anything… and he was soo embarrassed that he busted his nut with in 10 min he got up and left.. so what I’m getting at is I was supposed to video this or snap some photos… it all happened so fast and quick and not in the room I had set up… so I got nothing… being completely honest with my husband… well my husband has now flipped… wants a divorce, says I didn’t fuck for him or I would have gotten photos.. so now, he wants me to get him hooked up with a girl… and have “revenge sex” … and maybe then he will want to spend forever with me… we have been married 12 years together 18. I thought that the hot wife experience was going to be different… Is this a normal thing… especially since it wasn’t even my idea but I grew to want to try and when I finally did… this is the outcome??? I need help ladies!
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I'm not one of the ladies.
Men can be assholes, 1st rule - all men are dogs, 2nd rule - all men are dogs, 3rd rule - when in doubt refer to rules 1 & 2.
Sorry the actual encounters didn't turn out well, but I'm not sure 2 is a good measure. Gotta fuck a lotta frogs to find a prince. If you do get divorced you'll find that out.
Hubby was/is one of those assholes. You're seeing 2 sides of him that you never knew existed. Side 1 was wanting you to have sex with other men,. side 2, the most troubling, is his after the fact attitude. In hindsight he wanted this not for you but for him, that is where it all started to go wrong. It is about the wife's enjoyment, her pleasure, her joy, Next is the absolute need to preserve the primary relationship, he threw that under the bus. And I guarantee you hooking him up with someone will do more damage.
Sorry to say it may be time to move on, IMHO no matter what happens the relationship is damaged beyond repair. He will throw it up in your face forever, ultimately ending in divorce, take the pain now rather than putting it off.
I feel your pain!
Men can be assholes, 1st rule - all men are dogs, 2nd rule - all men are dogs, 3rd rule - when in doubt refer to rules 1 & 2.
Sorry the actual encounters didn't turn out well, but I'm not sure 2 is a good measure. Gotta fuck a lotta frogs to find a prince. If you do get divorced you'll find that out.
Hubby was/is one of those assholes. You're seeing 2 sides of him that you never knew existed. Side 1 was wanting you to have sex with other men,. side 2, the most troubling, is his after the fact attitude. In hindsight he wanted this not for you but for him, that is where it all started to go wrong. It is about the wife's enjoyment, her pleasure, her joy, Next is the absolute need to preserve the primary relationship, he threw that under the bus. And I guarantee you hooking him up with someone will do more damage.
Sorry to say it may be time to move on, IMHO no matter what happens the relationship is damaged beyond repair. He will throw it up in your face forever, ultimately ending in divorce, take the pain now rather than putting it off.
I feel your pain!
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I'm sorry your first experiences turn out like they did. But the issue is with your husband. He said he wanted you to be with other men, you did, and he gets upset. It difficult for me to know exactly how you feel because my husband loves allowing me to enjoy myself as I do him. From what you said I'm feeling you might try a different approach but it depends on how you feel. 2wheel may be right but maybe not. First and foremost talk to your husband. See where things head and if you're of mind go ahead and see if you can set up a FMF threesome. See how you feel watching him with another lady. Talk to him afterwards and see if he has a better attitude. Of course all this depends on how toy feel about your marriage and the extracurricular activities. If you value both you will find the words, It could be that it won't work and I don't have much advice for you there. But it sounds like it couldn't get much worse and it just might help. Please keep us informed.
There is nothing more fragile in this world than that of the male ego!! It’s most likely that he has insecurity issues, and when you weren’t able to produce pictures or videos of the interaction between you and the second guy, he automatically believed that 1. You left him out and didn’t allow him to be apart of the moment, and he feels like he’s been made a fool of, or 2. That he believes that more had actually happened than what you’ve told him, and therefore once again, he feels betrayed and that he’s been made a fool of. Being that this was both your first time, and that it happened when he was gone and not available to be present, or available to be there with you for the first times, it can lead into a lot of emotions that he’s trying to deal with, and has yet to learn how to cope and handle all the feelings he’s having. My suggestion is, #1. COMMUNICATE! COMMUNICATE! COMMUNICATE!! Talk with him about what he’s truly feeling and if you two can figure out how to work through them together. If he refuses, and is dead set on that the only way to overcome this is for him to have, “revenge sex”, then it all falls onto you and #2. You decide to go along with it. After all, it’s just sex! THEN.. AND THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT!! Before you decide to go any further or not, you both need to sit down and go over some ground rules!! Holding absolutely nothing back, find out what it is that he really wants, and make it perfectly clear what you want, and then depending on what you both come up with, decide if it’s the lifestyle you want to continue on with. Good luck and keep us posted..
Just my opinion, but it sounds like you may have stretched the rules. Did he know about the second guy ahead of time? Did he say it's OK for you to fuck whomever you want without any advance involvement from the hubby? If it happened fast and not in the room you set up, it should not have happened at all unless your hubby said it was OK ahead of time.
There are different kinds of dynamics and not all couples are the same. For me, if we had ground rules setup and my wife strayed from them, I would be super-pissed. But that's just me.
There are different kinds of dynamics and not all couples are the same. For me, if we had ground rules setup and my wife strayed from them, I would be super-pissed. But that's just me.
Oh my, are you sure you're ready for ME to weigh in on this ...... show? I would guess there are several members here who could give you MY thoughts on this situation pretty much verbatim! You seriously need to toughen up and get this all in order pretty quickly.
"Not fucking for him" LOLLOLLOL Who the fuck does this guy think he is anyway??? That's one of the most egregious statements I've ever read on this site, and that is really saying something! You probably don't want to know my thoughts, but I could probably solve much of this for you.
Mrs Hotwife
"Not fucking for him" LOLLOLLOL Who the fuck does this guy think he is anyway??? That's one of the most egregious statements I've ever read on this site, and that is really saying something! You probably don't want to know my thoughts, but I could probably solve much of this for you.
Mrs Hotwife
This is why good communication and a strong relationship is the key to making the hotwife thing work. So sorry it worked out this way. Maybe sit him down and have a heart to heart about what got this started in the first place. If he were truly into it he would not let something like this get in the way of everyone getting what they want and need. Hopefully he will come around and know this was his idea in the first place so it is on him. Try to work through it and get back to where you were.
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