Different strokes for different folks

[WNY3somecple]

One thing I have noticed on this and other similar websites is the number of people who assume because they or their partner like something it means everyone else does or will like the same thing.

Sometimes it will be just a one time comment and we all make mistakes. But for some others it is a constant slew of statements along the lines of because they act/enjoy/have these experiences/etc that it means everyone else does. Or even worse will assume if you or your partner say you don't enjoy that , they will flat out insinuate you or your partner are living?

Now I am sure I have been guilty of generalizations and to be clear I am NOT saying the above paragraphs describe everyone or even the majority of posters.

Is it really that difficult to understand that others might like or dislike things even if you don't feel that way?

Not everyone is the same. For goodness sake sites like this are built around people who enjoy so called "non-traditional life styles" or whatever you want to call it. Surely those of us here should be more accepting of the differences and understand others look at things differently?

 

[Lynnandhubby]

One thing I have noticed on this and other similar websites is the number of people who assume because they or their partner like something it means everyone else does or will like the same thing.

Sometimes it will be just a one time comment and we all make mistakes. But for some others it is a constant slew of statements along the lines of because they act/enjoy/have these experiences/etc that it means everyone else does. Or even worse will assume if you or your partner say you don't enjoy that , they will flat out insinuate you or your partner are living?

Now I am sure I have been guilty of generalizations and to be clear I am NOT saying the above paragraphs describe everyone or even the majority of posters.

Is it really that difficult to understand that others might like or dislike things even if you don't feel that way?

Not everyone is the same. For goodness sake sites like this are built around people who enjoy so called "non-traditional life styles" or whatever you want to call it. Surely those of us here should be more accepting of the differences and understand others look at things differently?

Couldn't agree more. And I'm sure I've been guilty of the same thing too at times, but I do try not to make general statements.
My pet peeve is people trying to define the lifestyle or presenting models for cuckolding/hotwifing/wife sharing, call it what you will, and assuming we will all fit within one of their proscribed models without any knowledge of our past experiences and the motivations that have led us down the road to where we are now.
I think non traditional or alternative lifestyles is a much better way of describing the wide range of views and relationships that are expressed on this site.
For instance we get lots of pm's asking 'is hubby a cuck' but what the hell does that mean? Everyone it seems has their own understanding of what they mean by cuck so it's a very loaded term and I have no way of knowing what they mean when they use it. By a strict dictionary definition yes he is because I fuck other guys. But lots of people use it to mean a wide range of different relationship dynamics.
The other thing that always gets me is that because I've regularly described myself as a slut on this site, when some guys they see that they are geographically close by, they assume that means that I can't wait to rush round and drop my knickers for them, when I've never met them and don't know anything about them. That might be a bit off topic but again it's about making assumptions.
I remember the old adage that I was told early on in my career - when you assume you make an ASS out of U and ME!

 

[WNY3somecple]

Just bumping my own opinion.

 

[69jd69]

Thank you both. I couldn't agree more. I have to confess to biting back anger at some of the rude or narrow minded responses. I have tried very very hard not to start a flame war on some of them. If you ever do see me responding in such a way, please remind me to take a step back.

 

[Demented_Donny]

One thing I have noticed on this and other similar websites is the number of people who assume because they or their partner like something it means everyone else does or will like the same thing.

Sometimes it will be just a one time comment and we all make mistakes. But for some others it is a constant slew of statements along the lines of because they act/enjoy/have these experiences/etc that it means everyone else does. Or even worse will assume if you or your partner say you don't enjoy that , they will flat out insinuate you or your partner are living?

Now I am sure I have been guilty of generalizations and to be clear I am NOT saying the above paragraphs describe everyone or even the majority of posters.

Is it really that difficult to understand that others might like or dislike things even if you don't feel that way?

Not everyone is the same. For goodness sake sites like this are built around people who enjoy so called "non-traditional life styles" or whatever you want to call it. Surely those of us here should be more accepting of the differences and understand others look at things differently?

yes, my wife and I like having pies smashed into our face by the local clown. it isn't for everyone, and i wouldn't suggest it for those with lactose intolerances.

on a serious note...I have losers tell me all the time how i should do this or that, like they are selling me a vacation. I feel that those that do it are fantasy guys, and actually not doing any of the things they suggest.

 

[69jd69]

yes, my wife and I like having pies smashed into our face by the local clown. it isn't for everyone, and i wouldn't suggest it for those with lactose intolerances.

on a serious note...I have losers tell me all the time how i should do this or that, like they are selling me a vacation. I feel that those that do it are fantasy guys, and actually not doing any of the things they suggest.

yes, my wife and I like having pies smashed into our face by the local clown. it isn't for everyone, and i wouldn't suggest it for those with lactose intolerances.

on a serious note...I have losers tell me all the time how i should do this or that, like they are selling me a vacation. I feel that those that do it are fantasy guys, and actually not doing any of the things they suggest.

“I feel that those that do it are fantasy guys, and actually not doing any of the things they suggest” Heartily agree.