Comfortable and safe anal fun

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Despite years of efforts to remove the stigma of anal sex, many people are ...... or uninterested in exploring it. Some find it painful, others find it unattractive or sexy. But if you're curious and open to new experiences, anal toys can be a great way to explore that pleasure.
How to choose anal sex products that suit you?
For a comfortable, enjoyable experience, it's important to choose the right anal product for you. They come in many types, sizes, shapes and features. The flared base is one of its main features.

This prevents the anal toy from fully inserting and being unable to be removed. Choose body-safe, nonporous materials like silicone, glass, and stainless steel to minimize odors and eliminate harmful chemicals.

For beginners, it’s best to start with small, slim anal toys.
Those with more experience may prefer anal toys with vibrating features for added stimulation. For men, anal products targeting the P-spot are more suitable.

Experienced users may also like to try larger anal 情趣用品.
Preparing for anal sex
Proper preparation can greatly enhance the experience, especially if you're new to anal sex. Rushing may cause discomfort and prevent you from trying again.

Lubrication is the most important factor. Don't rely on saliva, but use plenty of water-soluble lotion.

Try to do it in a relaxed, comfortable and private environment. It’s important to choose a position where you can move easily and maintain a positive mindset.
How to use anal sex products for beginners
Below we introduce the normal steps:
·Clean anal toys: Always disinfect anal toys before and after use to prevent the build-up of bacteria and dirt.
·Check for damage: Check anal toys for damage after use.
· Go to the bathroom: Having a bowel movement before you start can prevent accidents. Anal douches and enemas also provide additional safety.
·Regulate your mood: Engage in activities that excite and relax you.
·Apply lotion: Apply a generous amount of lotion to the anal toy, buttocks, and inside the anus (if possible). Reapply as needed during the session.
·Start with your fingers: Massage gently with lubricated fingers, then gradually insert the tip. Once you get used to it, gradually insert deeper and relax your anal muscles.
·Insert the anal toy slowly: Insert the anal toy gradually, taking a break if it feels uncomfortable. The procedure should feel comfortable or neutral, if you feel pain, slow down and try again later.
What to do after inserting
At first, your body may try to push the anal toy out. This is a normal reaction, so relax and reinsert if necessary.

Once you feel comfortable, try different moves. Try gentle back-and-forth motions, rotations, or even small circular movements. If it has a vibration feature, try different settings to find the most comfortable setting.

If you don't like the experience, one option is to try holding the anal toy still. The feeling of fulfillment is pleasurable in itself. Or you could try other forms of pleasure, such as stimulation from the insertion of an anal toy.
Other tips
Avoid double penetration: Do not use a toy that has been used in the butt before inserting it into the vagina without washing it.
Avoid numbing creams: These creams can mask pain and prevent your body from sensing signs that something is wrong.
Don’t Obsess About Anal Orgasms: Anal orgasms are rare and anal sex can be enjoyed as an amplification of other pleasures.
Clean up after play: Go to the bathroom when possible, take a shower, and clean up thoroughly.
 

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Despite years of efforts to remove the stigma of anal sex, many people are ...... or uninterested in exploring it. Some find it painful, others find it unattractive or sexy. But if you're curious and open to new experiences, anal toys can be a great way to explore that pleasure.
How to choose anal sex products that suit you?
For a comfortable, enjoyable experience, it's important to choose the right anal product for you. They come in many types, sizes, shapes and features. The flared base is one of its main features.

This prevents the anal toy from fully inserting and being unable to be removed. Choose body-safe, nonporous materials like silicone, glass, and stainless steel to minimize odors and eliminate harmful chemicals.

For beginners, it’s best to start with small, slim anal toys.
Those with more experience may prefer anal toys with vibrating features for added stimulation. For men, anal products targeting the P-spot are more suitable.

Experienced users may also like to try larger anal 情趣用品.
Preparing for anal sex
Proper preparation can greatly enhance the experience, especially if you're new to anal sex. Rushing may cause discomfort and prevent you from trying again.

Lubrication is the most important factor. Don't rely on saliva, but use plenty of water-soluble lotion.

Try to do it in a relaxed, comfortable and private environment. It’s important to choose a position where you can move easily and maintain a positive mindset.
How to use anal sex products for beginners
Below we introduce the normal steps:
·Clean anal toys: Always disinfect anal toys before and after use to prevent the build-up of bacteria and dirt.
·Check for damage: Check anal toys for damage after use.
· Go to the bathroom: Having a bowel movement before you start can prevent accidents. Anal douches and enemas also provide additional safety.
·Regulate your mood: Engage in activities that excite and relax you.
·Apply lotion: Apply a generous amount of lotion to the anal toy, buttocks, and inside the anus (if possible). Reapply as needed during the session.
·Start with your fingers: Massage gently with lubricated fingers, then gradually insert the tip. Once you get used to it, gradually insert deeper and relax your anal muscles.
·Insert the anal toy slowly: Insert the anal toy gradually, taking a break if it feels uncomfortable. The procedure should feel comfortable or neutral, if you feel pain, slow down and try again later.
What to do after inserting
At first, your body may try to push the anal toy out. This is a normal reaction, so relax and reinsert if necessary.

Once you feel comfortable, try different moves. Try gentle back-and-forth motions, rotations, or even small circular movements. If it has a vibration feature, try different settings to find the most comfortable setting.

If you don't like the experience, one option is to try holding the anal toy still. The feeling of fulfillment is pleasurable in itself. Or you could try other forms of pleasure, such as stimulation from the insertion of an anal toy.
Other tips
Avoid double penetration: Do not use a toy that has been used in the butt before inserting it into the vagina without washing it.
Avoid numbing creams: These creams can mask pain and prevent your body from sensing signs that something is wrong.
Don’t Obsess About Anal Orgasms: Anal orgasms are rare and anal sex can be enjoyed as an amplification of other pleasures.
Clean up after play: Go to the bathroom when possible, take a shower, and clean up thoroughly.
Interesting comments just a couple of expansions or additions, yes pre bowel movement is a must, as well as through douching prior is a must for both men and women until completely clean.
I cannot say enough about relax, not easy in the beginning when you don’t know what to expect, but after pre cleaning it is the most important thing to do, and I disagree, Anal Orgasms are not rare, when you learn to relax and enjoy, both my husband and I have orgasms almost always while receiving Anal sex, perhaps as a result of experience, but the woman whom taught me how to enjoy anal sex also would explain once you learn to relax and enjoy the sensation of the penetration, you will in time enjoy anal sex with orgasmic delight, and she was right.

Thank you for this delightful and informative post, for those new to anal sex or thinking about it, all holds true for both men and women in this process.
For all the men who desire your wife to preform this type of play, it is not a one way street, you too should be ready to explore this option of sexual pleasures, show your wife or gf you are willing and ready to do all that you ask or expect of her!
 
In my younger years I tried to butt fuck every girl I was with, most said no.
My experience was it went one of three ways.
1) no way...all good
2) shed say I'm not sure about it (meaning no) but some would give it a try.
3) instant yes, lest do it
My long time wife said she tried it a few times didn't like it, no prob. In 25 years we tried anal 3 times, never went well. No prob.
We've been getting with a guy friend we know for sex fun out midlife experience I guess, it's fun stuff. He's a really cool guy. We've done it pretty regularly for about 2 years now. Nothing wild happens just some good sex.
One night we were having a nice time, he was doing her from behind. He reached for the lube and said they were going to try some back door. I thought she won't. He put lube on his dick and slid his finger into her butt, she just let him do it. He got lined up and slid it in REALLY SLOW. He got tye head in and she said woah. He plulled out then went in again SLOWLEY. A few in then out, little more in, out till he was all the way in. She was grunting like crazy. She stayed with it, he took 7 or 8 slow full pumps then pulled out. She said WOW. It was tye hottest thing I'd ever seen.
Since then anal happens every time he's with us, sometimes for just a minute but there's been nights he's cum in her butt. There's been nights we both did her butt.
I've fucked her butt several times just her and me. She's into it if she's really turned on and it starts slow. They've had pretty long anal sessions where he gets going pretty good and she's OK with it.
 
Interesting comments. Seems there are lots of guys (and gals) who love anal. I have to admit I've never been one of them. Call me squeamish. My wife has never been interested either which works for both of us I guess. Her last FWB seemed to be really into it and was always encouraging her to try. She never did which I was completely ok with - sex always should be on her terms.

We got busy dealing with life, family, and stuff this past summer, so she wasn't able to connect with him. Seems the relationship has fizzled out. Not sure if her lack of interest in anal might be a factor on his part 🙄
 
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My ex was into me exploring my anus. With my new wife, Ive always had to explore in private. Im proud to say that I have slowly made it into the large dildos.
It does take time. I find that I need a full 2 hours from start to finish. This includes bowel movement, cleaning, preping a chair in front or our full length wall mirror, paper towels everywhere and lubing myself and 3 sizes of butt plugs and dildo.
Small goes in quite easy, I rotate it around as much as I can to expand. Same deal with 2nd. Butt plugs expand you but are shallow in reach. I usuallly end with a dildo that goes deep.
I get turned on seeing in the mirrow how my anal rim starts looking like a vagina when the dildo comes out.
Pull large dildo out and then rub myself like a pussy from side to side. I do think I might be able to orgasm one day.

Wife on the other hand, reserves anal for lovers. Its a denial thing and we both enjoy it. I get to lick where others penetrate.
 
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My ex was into me exploring my anus. With my new wife, Ive always had to explore in private. Im proud to say that I have slowly made it into the large dildos.
It does take time. I find that I need a full 2 hours from start to finish. This includes bowel movement, cleaning, preping a chair in front or our full length wall mirror, paper towels everywhere and lubing myself and 3 sizes of butt plugs and dildo.
Small goes in quite easy, I rotate it around as much as I can to expand. Same deal with 2nd. Butt plugs expand you but are shallow in reach. I usuallly end with a dildo that goes deep.
I get turned on seeing in the mirrow how my anal rim starts looking like a vagina when the dildo comes out.
Pull large dildo out and then rub myself like a pussy from side to side. I do think I might be able to orgasm one day.

Wife on the other hand, reserves anal for lovers. Its a denial thing and we both enjoy it. I get to lick where others penetrate.
This is sick AF