I joined here I think about a year ago, but lost track of this site when my computer died. I recently found it again and after reading a lot of posts, I see that many of you members have some great insight & advice for us newbies. My story is a bit long, but i hope that the background helps you understand my wife and I better so your comments & advise can be more detailed and applicable. I also can be a bit thick headed, so your clarity will be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance, so her goes!
Married 30 years, 3 grown kids out of the house. I am 56, tall & fit. My wife is 5’5”, beautiful face with sexy eyes & smile, very long wavy brown hair, 38D, 140lbs, Smooth sexy skin, and has great legs & a great ass. She is ridiculously hot for her age. Also, even though she is 52, most guys think she is only like early 40’s.
Starting around 2019 I had begun working on being more authentic & transparent, but I was having trouble disclosing the more unusual parts of myself to my wife. I was trying to push forward with some difficult conversations, but I often got anxious and stopped myself.
Then about 2 years ago, I had a dream about a DP / MFM with my wife and a young hung white guy. I thought this to be a good opportunity to practice being more open, so the next day I told her about it. She listened intently without getting upset or making any negative comments. She even asked me about the guy, and if it was anyone specific. I told her no, he was just young and fit and hung, and that he was in her pussy and I was in her ass and that she was moaning with pleasure. After I was done describing it all, she said, "OK, but that's never going to happen”. I was cool with her reply back then (Even thought the dream made me so insanely hard, like I was 17 again.) because at that point, I had never thought about sharing her before and I certainly wasn't ready in my mind to do anything in real life yet. I had also been having some ED issues and so the morning wood after that dream was intriguing. I figure the dream was a result of me feeling like I was not satisfying her as well as from my desire to have anal sex with her.
I thought that was the end of it, but a few days later she came to me and said in an enthusiastic & sexy voice, and with a twinkle in her eye, that she would do my dream fantasy, if she could pick the guy, but not the DP/anal part. From reading her body language, she seemed very exited. I was surprised that I felt really turned on when she said she would do it, but I also felt a very anxious & I really freaked out in my mind (my anxiety lasted for 3 days, worse than I had ever felt, and I think it was more from me feeling like I didn’t even know her, vs. her potential desire to have another man). Also, I didn’t know what to say. I was caught off guard and so shocked by her comment, because historically she has been so vanilla and always has denounced cheating, swinging and threesomes.
Remember, I did not ask her to do it or say it was my fantasy, it was just that I just wanted to share the sex dream I had. Anyway, I replied (without really thinking or knowing what I wanted at that point) that I wasn't even sure I wanted to do it, that it was just a dream. After I said that, she then denied wanting to do it and said she was just kidding with me and was just throwing that back in my face, because I had such a “weird dream”. However, I do believe the idea made her all hot and that she considered possibly doing it (once she had a little time to think it over), but that I likely turned her off by my uncertainty at the time. Also, I feel that she may have had someone she was attracted to, for her reply that way about picking the guy, but I never found out who.
In the weeks following all that, I asked her a few times about her initial interest, and she just kept saying "I don't know what made me say I would do that". After those few times, she would get mad if I tried to bring up her initial interest. It wasn't until about 3 months after all this, that I realized I probably do want to share her. It has dominated my thoughts and my research and my fantasies since, thus how I found this site and several others.
It was about 6 months after the dream conversation when she surprised me by turning on UK documentary about swingers, and while we were watching, she said she would like to go to a swingers party just to observe the interactions between everyone there, but not to touch or be touched. I brushed it off as a joke, but then she said, no, seriously, I would like to go to one of those events. I said I thought it would be fun, and that I wouldn’t mind watching others if they were good looking. All was good at that point.
Then a couple days after that, she mentioned something else she had seen on TV about swingers again and I thought I would continue the conversations so I said, if we ever decide to go to one of those, we probably should not go to one in our town in case we might know someone there. She freaked and started a big fight with me (A Top 5 lifetime fight), saying how could I ever think she wanted to do that. She even suggested that we were not compatible and that we want different things. After that she refused to talk about it. However, The very next night, she was soooo incredibly horny, like I have never seen her before (that I remember), and we fucked like crazy. She seems so conflicted, but I feel like it must be turning her on. At that point, I decided not to push or comment, so as not to pressure her.
Another thing happened early this year. Unbeknownst to me, she had turned on a lifetime movie about swingers in the am. When I first walked in the bedroom, she immediately changed the TV to the guide view (But I noticed the title on the guide out of the corner of my eye, but didn’t say a word). Then a little bit later I came back to the room and she was watching it! I sat down with her and we watched the whole thing, it felt very erotic. but she didn’t make any comments after and neither did I. I was trying to give her some space with it all.
Then, back about spring time, she told me she had been watching this Netflix show called “Easy”. She told me it was about open marriage, swingers and threesomes, but that it was strange because the actors play different characters in different episodes. She also said one episode in particular was very funny when the husband went to get a happy ending at the suggestion of his friend, because he couldn’t go through yet with fucking another woman. Later that night she proceeded to play that one and parts of the other ones for me. I just went along with it and watched them with her. Interestingly, she only commented on aspects of the show & characters, but not the content.
Then recently, after a few drinks we were talking about different stuff, and over the course of the evening, she told me that she could never share me with another woman, because as an only ...... she is too possessive to share me. She also said that she is not into women at all, and that she wouldn’t ever want to do a FMF threesome. Later, she said (In a very hypothetical indirect way) that if she ever did a threesome, it would have to be with two men, and that she would love all that attention two guys would give her.
Then another night she admitted to me that she has only cum from just penetration alone, about 3-4 times in her life. She didn’t want to tell me who it was with, but I convinced her I wouldn’t be mad or upset. She said it was guy she dated and fucked at a sports camp years ago (long before us) and that he was very thick and she came every time from just his cock. She then told me she wants to experience vaginal orgasms again! She did say she wants to try to have them with me, but since I never gave her one that way in 30 years, I can’t see how I can make it happen, especially with just my thin cock (6"L x 1.2" Dia.) She has been such a fantastic wife, I want to give her what she really needs/craves, especially after all the years of loyalty and sacrifice for me.
Then a few weeks back, I had my biggest surprise from her yet; she asked me to eat her out after i fucked her good and filled her with a big load. She never did that before. It was a bold move for her based upon our past vanilla history. I was hesitant at first, but tried it and I loved it. She seems to really enjoy watching me do it. She also says she loves the way it feels! I really wonder where that came from, she was never that bold before.
The other night when we were fucking, I told her she was a very naughty girl, and she replied in a shy and blustery way, “ I ammmmm?” Then I thought maybe I pushed a little too far, so I said yes, but in a good way, and then she said, “too bad, I was hoping in a bad way!”
My plan is to explore that "bad girl" side, and her desires, with more play time. But I am looking for advice, as to where her head likely is with all this based on the events above. I feel like she really wants something new, but does not want to own it, and so she hints around as described. I also think she would rather be able to "blame" me for any indiscretions, like she did it for me, but how would I move forward without pressuring her? I think we need to go slow,but I am confused about what to do next. I want it, but I am still a bit worried about doing it.
Mike
Married 30 years, 3 grown kids out of the house. I am 56, tall & fit. My wife is 5’5”, beautiful face with sexy eyes & smile, very long wavy brown hair, 38D, 140lbs, Smooth sexy skin, and has great legs & a great ass. She is ridiculously hot for her age. Also, even though she is 52, most guys think she is only like early 40’s.
Starting around 2019 I had begun working on being more authentic & transparent, but I was having trouble disclosing the more unusual parts of myself to my wife. I was trying to push forward with some difficult conversations, but I often got anxious and stopped myself.
Then about 2 years ago, I had a dream about a DP / MFM with my wife and a young hung white guy. I thought this to be a good opportunity to practice being more open, so the next day I told her about it. She listened intently without getting upset or making any negative comments. She even asked me about the guy, and if it was anyone specific. I told her no, he was just young and fit and hung, and that he was in her pussy and I was in her ass and that she was moaning with pleasure. After I was done describing it all, she said, "OK, but that's never going to happen”. I was cool with her reply back then (Even thought the dream made me so insanely hard, like I was 17 again.) because at that point, I had never thought about sharing her before and I certainly wasn't ready in my mind to do anything in real life yet. I had also been having some ED issues and so the morning wood after that dream was intriguing. I figure the dream was a result of me feeling like I was not satisfying her as well as from my desire to have anal sex with her.
I thought that was the end of it, but a few days later she came to me and said in an enthusiastic & sexy voice, and with a twinkle in her eye, that she would do my dream fantasy, if she could pick the guy, but not the DP/anal part. From reading her body language, she seemed very exited. I was surprised that I felt really turned on when she said she would do it, but I also felt a very anxious & I really freaked out in my mind (my anxiety lasted for 3 days, worse than I had ever felt, and I think it was more from me feeling like I didn’t even know her, vs. her potential desire to have another man). Also, I didn’t know what to say. I was caught off guard and so shocked by her comment, because historically she has been so vanilla and always has denounced cheating, swinging and threesomes.
Remember, I did not ask her to do it or say it was my fantasy, it was just that I just wanted to share the sex dream I had. Anyway, I replied (without really thinking or knowing what I wanted at that point) that I wasn't even sure I wanted to do it, that it was just a dream. After I said that, she then denied wanting to do it and said she was just kidding with me and was just throwing that back in my face, because I had such a “weird dream”. However, I do believe the idea made her all hot and that she considered possibly doing it (once she had a little time to think it over), but that I likely turned her off by my uncertainty at the time. Also, I feel that she may have had someone she was attracted to, for her reply that way about picking the guy, but I never found out who.
In the weeks following all that, I asked her a few times about her initial interest, and she just kept saying "I don't know what made me say I would do that". After those few times, she would get mad if I tried to bring up her initial interest. It wasn't until about 3 months after all this, that I realized I probably do want to share her. It has dominated my thoughts and my research and my fantasies since, thus how I found this site and several others.
It was about 6 months after the dream conversation when she surprised me by turning on UK documentary about swingers, and while we were watching, she said she would like to go to a swingers party just to observe the interactions between everyone there, but not to touch or be touched. I brushed it off as a joke, but then she said, no, seriously, I would like to go to one of those events. I said I thought it would be fun, and that I wouldn’t mind watching others if they were good looking. All was good at that point.
Then a couple days after that, she mentioned something else she had seen on TV about swingers again and I thought I would continue the conversations so I said, if we ever decide to go to one of those, we probably should not go to one in our town in case we might know someone there. She freaked and started a big fight with me (A Top 5 lifetime fight), saying how could I ever think she wanted to do that. She even suggested that we were not compatible and that we want different things. After that she refused to talk about it. However, The very next night, she was soooo incredibly horny, like I have never seen her before (that I remember), and we fucked like crazy. She seems so conflicted, but I feel like it must be turning her on. At that point, I decided not to push or comment, so as not to pressure her.
Another thing happened early this year. Unbeknownst to me, she had turned on a lifetime movie about swingers in the am. When I first walked in the bedroom, she immediately changed the TV to the guide view (But I noticed the title on the guide out of the corner of my eye, but didn’t say a word). Then a little bit later I came back to the room and she was watching it! I sat down with her and we watched the whole thing, it felt very erotic. but she didn’t make any comments after and neither did I. I was trying to give her some space with it all.
Then, back about spring time, she told me she had been watching this Netflix show called “Easy”. She told me it was about open marriage, swingers and threesomes, but that it was strange because the actors play different characters in different episodes. She also said one episode in particular was very funny when the husband went to get a happy ending at the suggestion of his friend, because he couldn’t go through yet with fucking another woman. Later that night she proceeded to play that one and parts of the other ones for me. I just went along with it and watched them with her. Interestingly, she only commented on aspects of the show & characters, but not the content.
Then recently, after a few drinks we were talking about different stuff, and over the course of the evening, she told me that she could never share me with another woman, because as an only ...... she is too possessive to share me. She also said that she is not into women at all, and that she wouldn’t ever want to do a FMF threesome. Later, she said (In a very hypothetical indirect way) that if she ever did a threesome, it would have to be with two men, and that she would love all that attention two guys would give her.
Then another night she admitted to me that she has only cum from just penetration alone, about 3-4 times in her life. She didn’t want to tell me who it was with, but I convinced her I wouldn’t be mad or upset. She said it was guy she dated and fucked at a sports camp years ago (long before us) and that he was very thick and she came every time from just his cock. She then told me she wants to experience vaginal orgasms again! She did say she wants to try to have them with me, but since I never gave her one that way in 30 years, I can’t see how I can make it happen, especially with just my thin cock (6"L x 1.2" Dia.) She has been such a fantastic wife, I want to give her what she really needs/craves, especially after all the years of loyalty and sacrifice for me.
Then a few weeks back, I had my biggest surprise from her yet; she asked me to eat her out after i fucked her good and filled her with a big load. She never did that before. It was a bold move for her based upon our past vanilla history. I was hesitant at first, but tried it and I loved it. She seems to really enjoy watching me do it. She also says she loves the way it feels! I really wonder where that came from, she was never that bold before.
The other night when we were fucking, I told her she was a very naughty girl, and she replied in a shy and blustery way, “ I ammmmm?” Then I thought maybe I pushed a little too far, so I said yes, but in a good way, and then she said, “too bad, I was hoping in a bad way!”
My plan is to explore that "bad girl" side, and her desires, with more play time. But I am looking for advice, as to where her head likely is with all this based on the events above. I feel like she really wants something new, but does not want to own it, and so she hints around as described. I also think she would rather be able to "blame" me for any indiscretions, like she did it for me, but how would I move forward without pressuring her? I think we need to go slow,but I am confused about what to do next. I want it, but I am still a bit worried about doing it.
Mike
