Hi all.
Me and the wife have been together a long time. 24 years. She has known for many years that I want to share her and for her to be a hotwife in the stag/vixen lifestyle.
I have on many of occasions said to her that she can sext other guys. But I want to know about it and see the messages and pictures she sends. She has always said she would. But not really taken the step to do it. The ones she has done didn't really go anywhere and she didn't really get flirty and sexual with them.
Well the other week we had a argument. Not to do with sharing or anything. But it ended up with me looking through her phone for answers.
Well I did get the answers to what I wanted. But at the same time I went through one of her social media profiles messages. Well I saw a message from (the app name) user. Meaning he was no longer on there with that profile.
I opened up the chat and it was message after message of her flirting, talking about meeting, pictures and videos. Him replying etc.... Lots of sexual context in the message between the 2 of them.
Now obviously I didn't know it and I was deeply hurt as she said she would tell me when she does but she didn't about this.
She has said to me they never met up for anything. Even though he was a ex Co worker. He is half her age aswell. She basically said she liked the attention.
I do believe her and she has been very apologetic over it and felt extreme guilt.
So my question for advice is. How can I now turn this into more and actually get her to be shared? She seems to like the sexting with guys and like younger guys that find her attractive and give her attention. We did set up a profile on a swingers website where she can chat to guys. But at the moment she says that's all she wants to do.
Me and the wife have been together a long time. 24 years. She has known for many years that I want to share her and for her to be a hotwife in the stag/vixen lifestyle.
I have on many of occasions said to her that she can sext other guys. But I want to know about it and see the messages and pictures she sends. She has always said she would. But not really taken the step to do it. The ones she has done didn't really go anywhere and she didn't really get flirty and sexual with them.
Well the other week we had a argument. Not to do with sharing or anything. But it ended up with me looking through her phone for answers.
Well I did get the answers to what I wanted. But at the same time I went through one of her social media profiles messages. Well I saw a message from (the app name) user. Meaning he was no longer on there with that profile.
I opened up the chat and it was message after message of her flirting, talking about meeting, pictures and videos. Him replying etc.... Lots of sexual context in the message between the 2 of them.
Now obviously I didn't know it and I was deeply hurt as she said she would tell me when she does but she didn't about this.
She has said to me they never met up for anything. Even though he was a ex Co worker. He is half her age aswell. She basically said she liked the attention.
I do believe her and she has been very apologetic over it and felt extreme guilt.
So my question for advice is. How can I now turn this into more and actually get her to be shared? She seems to like the sexting with guys and like younger guys that find her attractive and give her attention. We did set up a profile on a swingers website where she can chat to guys. But at the moment she says that's all she wants to do.