Am I right ??

[samsar]

Maybe I have a wasted talent then coastal kid lol - well I’m not in any way displeased or otherwise by you saying that , I’m only happy that yourself and a few other members are keeping me focussed and sane in my situation . As you say the details matter - we were watching a drama last night - the couple next door and basically had a sort of Cuckolded / three sum mff scene in it - my wife watching it with me and immeadiately after that scene said - that would have been right up your alley watching that - so firstly there was the put down that I like sexual cuckold / 3 sun etc things followed by saying - I thought it was disgusting - just disgusting - so there was the narcissistic prudish wife in full flow - the same one that used to let her sisters fiancé fuck her obviously behind her own sisters back - and also telling me that basically sex acts kinky or otherwise is repulsive to her - her double standards in relation to most things but especially sex stuff is frankly fucking mind blowing . We are away to Spain for 5 days again but have basically given up on sex / being intimate with her because in my mind she couldn’t be clearer in saying sex or intimacy is off limits with her and I don’t know if I even want to try yet again with it as it’s always a one way street . So she won’t have time apart from maybe a text message to someone else which I’ll be trying to spot from her body language etc . When we get home I’ll have the tracker in the car so see what happens with that . She disappeared yesterday to spend a couple of hours with her ...... but I phoned and heard her daughters voice but she could still be texting or indeed even calling whoever with her there as a few years ago this has happened - her ...... being aware and accepting of the fact that her ...... was taking and messaging another guy behind her husbands back - I can go into this in more detail if you think it’s relevant . Right now she’s away getting her nails done and Has hinted her ...... needs new tops for work so that’s probably where she will be for a while today - everything is calm , in order - I know what’s happening with this - next moment everything is colliding - no order - no end - I need to definitively find out just what the fuck she is up to and with who ! . If I try all I can without getting caught and come up with nothing I’m not sure what I will do - I’ve made mistakes like everyone but seems like I’m being punished at the very least for being a sexual person- sure enough she’s away now to see her ...... , then to see her brother - so she be away for a few hours probably . Oh and I have mentioned previously about taking the vibrator away and then returning it - it’s kept in my bedside drawer - indeed there are texts to verify and was told it was none of my business whether she was using it or not . So yesterday I plugged it in and yes you’ve guessed right - a good 15 mins later and it was still charging - so she’s been using it - whilst I’m still getting not a single thing - no regret or guilt on her part that her husband is denied and shut off from her . So blinkered / selfish and narcissistic of her . Feel like a hamster on a wheel going around and around - if she would only say - I’m being fucked or seeing another guy then she knows it would end badly for her but doesn’t want to admit or in any way shape or form consent or allow me to gain any pleasure by cuckolding me with whoever as that means she would have to admit that within herself is a kinky sexual person - the same as the one she seems to be vehemently against - that is me !!!!! - sorry guys these are getting longer - trying to explain my thoughts isn’t easy - so thank you if you have reached this far

I think I have mentioned this before , could it be a woman she is cheating with and not a man,
Just a thought , maybe she is a closet lesbian it would explain her love for her vibrater and her rejection of cock ,?👍

 

[Motoman]

I think I have mentioned this before , could it be a woman she is cheating with and not a man,
Just a thought , maybe she is a closet lesbian it would explain her love for her vibrater and her rejection of cock ,?👍

I was leaning towards the same feelings. Might explain the "pride ish" behavior

 

[samsar]

I was leaning towards the same feelings. Might explain the "pride ish" behavior

I wonder how he would feel if it turns out to be a woman would that change things for him , ?

 

[Snoopsissy]

I think I have mentioned this before , could it be a woman she is cheating with and not a man,
Just a thought , maybe she is a closet lesbian it would explain her love for her vibrater and her rejection of cock ,?👍

Thank you for that suggestion samsar - I suppose anything is possible ? . Like so many other things I have only my personal view on her having been married for 9 years - she has never shown any interest in another woman although again if the right one came along - who knows - as mentioned before she said she was disgusted at the mff 3 sum on a tv programme last night . This is nothing new too however as I made the big mistake of telling her I had a mmf 3 sum about 10 years before we even met and she was appalled then too . This is the same woman who’s engaged to be married boss was fucking her after work ! . So it’s selective prudishness she practices .

 

[coastalkid]

Once you have the tracker in place it may come down to you having to actually physically follow her. Do you have any friends at the pub that you can talk to about this? That's if you go to the pub on any regular sort of basis. You could use some more immediate input from a friend or friends.

As to her reaction(s) to the TV program, I get the feeling that as a narcissist she also has an affinity for hypocrisy. She sees everyone else as flawed and minimizes her own behaviors. It's her way of justifying her behavior as reasonable.

At some point you have to consider how much of your life do you want to waste waiting on her to come around. I know for myself that I felt (and still struggle with feeling) a lot of resentment for my wife wasting some of the best sexual years of my life with her ambivalent attitude towards sex. Fortunately, my wife has realized her part in the damage she created with her attitude. That only happened after we separated for a short while. It took something extreme to bring her out of her self justification. Things are much better for us now but when I struggle to get hard for her I'm reminded of the time my wife stole from US. I have to push those thoughts from my head because it ends up being counter productive, especially in light of my wife's contrition and her obvious effort to make things right.

Have you considered just telling her that the way things are right now that you don't see a future together or at least realizing that what is happening between the two of you is pushing you away from each other instead of closer together? I totally understand your feeling the need to catch her because of her brazen attitude but will that be satisfying enough to warrant the anguish? She doesn't sound like the type to show contrition if caught. She sounds like she''s the type that would say, "Oh well, been there, done that." and just move on.

 

[Cuntfister]

I don’t know if I’m imagining things or not but my wife and haven’t been intimate for around 3 months now and I believe she has cheated before in another relationship - she has told me ‘ she knows all the ways not to be found out ‘. So for her to say that confirms it for me . Anyway she seems to be out shopping etc which is not unusual at Xmas time but she seems to be away for hours and hours - on the odd occasion I’ve called her mobile and she’s supposed to be at the mall - but when she answers it’s silent in the background - you know that dull echo you get - also she got a bit agitated last weekend when I dropped her off for her car and she left her mobile in mines - sort of concerned maybe she’d get a call or text and I’d see it . About 15 minutes ago I called her - again at the mall - she picked up but was very matter of fact on the phone - almost like there was someone else with her and she didn’t want them to know or hear she was in fact talking to her husband ! . You know when you know somethings just not right -. I text her and asked her was someone there but just said she was in a shop but again no background noise of other shoppers ? . Trouble is she knows full well that I’d like to share her but she is concerned about what if other people find out etc . So what do you guys and girls think - if I ask / confront her it will be be denied and I’ll be the bad guy again . I’m deaf / blind / dumb hubby again trying to get some concrete evidence about this - any ideas ?? - sorry it’s so long also

Dm me lets discuss this further I need to know and see everything

 

[Snoopsissy]

I was leaning towards the same feelings. Might explain the "pride ish" behavior

Part of her prudishness was she stated - no one used sex toys / she knew of no one that even had one and they don’t do anything for you anyway . She has always had a selective form of this especially when it comes to me or anything thst I suggest re sex . So I got her a vibrator to try and she now has around 6 - small / large - battery mains and they have given her I think the best orgasms of her life . She uses it when I’m at work as I heard her using it one day despite her denial as that would mean she’s sexual right ? . She has worked beside a lesbian before ( sort of butch one ) and her bosses ...... at previous job lived with another woman and has been invited to a gay club by them but needless to say didn’t go . She continually I believe represses her sexuality in favour of prudishness - in case someone else found out or some other nonsense . She has had as far as I know a few partners / men but all to a man seem to have been the most boring guys ever - none apparently have asked her to wear heels or stockings or anything / never did anything kinky or wanted to blah blah blah

 

[Snoopsissy]

Dm me lets discuss this further I need to know and see everything

No thanks