Lynn: This and the Jaanddaj message are obviously very sympathetic to my situation. (It appears that women generally are the ones willing to consider suggesting constructive solutions while men think I just need to give up. I wish my wife felt the same.) Despite my wife's cheating and lying (and other related factors that I would be embarrassed to describe), I love her, respect her, desperately want her to be happy and have no interest in holding her actions against her. She seems to have become someone entirely different, and less admirable, than the woman I've known for so many years. I keep thinking that I must be able to do something to bring her back to who she was.
