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What’s your time frame here? How many days/months apart is this happening?
Are you paying attention to her cycle? You’re going to have better conversations 1-2 days after her period than say 3-4 days before her period in most cases just due to hormones.
How long have you been together?
I believe that every woman wants to ha e 2 guys at least once. They are just worried about how they will be perceived afterwards
Yea, I'm in a similar situation to the op. She admits she'd like two cocks at the same time maybe more when she's in a heightened state of arousal. She sometimes plays along when just jokingly chatting and then sometimes the total opposite, blows hot and cold. I think she thinks that I want to fuck around aswell but that's not the case. I thought I was making good progress but stopped short of telling her outright I'd like to see her fucke another guy because of these mixed signals
She has got to want it for it to be successful. I would keep incorporating what you can in the bedroom. Don’t push it so much for now. She sounds like she enjoys the fantasy but the leap to reality is too hard a boundary to cross.
Would she be willing to go to a nude beach?
Would she be willing to go to a nude beach?
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As long as you understand, she was doing “sexual play” with fantasy, and you ZOOMED way, way, way past where she was, triggering some insecurities on her part.
There is no way forward without completely understanding how she felt. (Violated/betrayed/etc) and then you reflect back your understanding of her feelings so she feels seen.
That entails lots of talking. Hire a therapist if you think it would be the better choice.
This may be hard to believe, but, her response signifies how much she cares. if you value the relationship, work hard on fixing the break.
It’s not mixed signals. Many women “try on” different ideas as a way to figure out what feels good to them. It’s how some of them move through life.
Your top goal is having it become a regular conversation. Don’t mess it up.
Yup. The more casual and normal you can make the Conversation, the better. Constantly remind her it won’t break your connection to her.
It usually starts in the bedroom. keep it there for now.
Tell her that’s a stereotype and people love making blanket statements because it makes them sound smart or sets their own mind at ease. You are your own person and your own couple, you will take your own journey.
I agree with some of the earlier comments, take it slow and enjoy the process. I am getting better at serving my wife and letting her lead, we are enhancing our communication, I am trying to make sure she enjoys everything instead of worrying about me or my orgasm…it’s been awesome for our sex life.
This lifestyle isn’t for everyone. Respect her wishes or be prepared for her to leave.
This right here.
OP, thank her for sharing her concern and giving you the opportunity to talk about it. The idea is, over time, she’ll begin to see it won’t threaten your relationship, and she gets to freely express her thoughts (🔥🔥🔥) and concerns.
Relax you're making headway you've broken the ice. You've planted a seed.
It could happen the next time you guys are on vacation. And she has had a few drinks in her.
the hormone thing sounds hella obvious but istg i'd never have put it together in a million years. im generally pretty oblivious though.
This lifestyle isn't for everyone.
Many times the sizzle is better than the steak.
What she says an does with you during sex doesn't represent what she'll do out of the bedroom.
After all this time with her you should be able to know her limits and when you can change her position.
Though my late wife always said NO, I knew that she'd ultimately give in and ultimately enjoy it.
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Many times the sizzle is better than the steak.
What she says an does with you during sex doesn't represent what she'll do out of the bedroom.
After all this time with her you should be able to know her limits and when you can change her position.
Though my late wife always said NO, I knew that she'd ultimately give in and ultimately enjoy it.
Is this the start or the end (part 1)?
Thursday, 8/30, I asked my wife if Gayle is going to join us for dinner Friday 8/31. (we're going out for pizza and Gayle's husband Jack is away). She's engrossed in reading a book and without any thought blurts out, "no, Gayle has a date." Then she realizes what she just said, stops reading...
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If you want to reach your goal, put in the work. Know your angles and situation.
Damn, maybe just let her stew on the thought and not mention it again to her. I mentioned it to my wife during sex and after a while we started fantasing and role playing about her and there were times she’d get super wet and have insane orgasms and there were times she said she just wanted me. Just plant the seed and let her take it from there. We haven’t gone any further then just role playing and might never but I think she atleast thinks about it because she knows how much it turned me on.
Can totally relate to your issue - my wife of 7 years had a few skeletons ( mens cocks ) in her closet and came about one night we were fucking and she sort of smirked and said she couldn’t feel me in her - long story short I suggested getting a guy with big cock and she agreed after me explaining I didn’t want other women and only wanted to see her satisfied and fulfilled . We even made an ad on pof and she was ok with that - UNTIL - I actually posted it and she went ballistic , told me she was only going along with it to see if I would go through with it and why would she want another man and sex was only between man and wife etc blah fucking blah . Up to that point I used to talk dirty when dildoing / vibing her mentioning guys names / work colleagues etc and this did really turn her on . Slow and measured never pushing it on her . I think your wife has exactly same mentality and even the porn thing was to make you feel comfortable and trick you into finding out exactly the kind of guy you are . I’ve been there too
Dont be surprized if shes curious and wants to eXplore a studly guy, just scared to tell you,,,good luck
We’re actually going to be at Bahamar in April for a week and I’m going to see how she reacts to when we’re out to dinner and sitting at the bar while she has no panties under her dress and a couple of drinks and we point out which BBC would make her wet. She has a look she likes and it’s a clean Business attire wearing well built tall and hung BBC that we fantasize about her playing with. No name, no future plans with no attachment, just spur of the moment if it just happens it happens, or not no expectations. My wife’s a very reserved blonde but the fact that it feels wrong and would be our secret and we’d only do it while vacationing in the Bahamas is what I think turns her on. That’s our roll play and it might never happen but the fact that we’re atleast that far is hot.